1. At 60, the workplace eliminates you. No matter how successful or powerful you were, retirement brings you back to being just another person. Don’t cling to your old job title or status; let go of your ego to maintain your inner peace. 2. At 70, society gradually eliminates you. Friends and colleagues fade away,…
We often hear the word “SHOULD” when discussing the challenges faced by the Ummah. It’s easy to say what should be done, but putting it into action is far more difficult. This mindset of endless “SHOULDs” has paralyzed us, preventing real change. When you think about the issues facing the Ummah, the “SHOULD” virus takes…
The silent treatment is a form of emotional and mental abuse often used by narcissists. In this tactic, the abuser deliberately ignores their victim for extended periods, causing feelings of rejection and isolation. This behavior keeps the victim in a constant state of anxiety, oscillating between fight or flight. Essentially, the silent treatment involves a…
In the pursuit of success and personal growth, understanding the complexities of our mind becomes paramount. The human brain, inherently seeking comfort, often navigates between the allure of ease and the necessity of hard work a fundamental dichotomy shaping our paths to achievement. While some muster the strength to persevere through adversity, many falter. What…
As life expectancy increases worldwide, more people are living into their sixties and beyond. Officially recognized as senior citizens, these individuals have experienced life in all its dimensions joy, sorrow, and everything in between. Aging, however, is not just about the passage of time; it is a result of the accumulation of molecular and cellular…
Defense mechanisms are psychological strategies that people unconsciously use to protect themselves from distressing thoughts, emotions, or events. Also known as ego defenses, these mechanisms help shield the mind from psychological harm. While some defense mechanisms can be constructive, aiding in stress management, others may foster unhealthy behaviors or lead to the avoidance of necessary…
Our true character is reflected in our children. Often, we mistakenly blame them for behavioral issues without recognizing that the solution lies in improving ourselves. Admitting our faults to those advising us on parenting can be challenging, but seeking forgiveness and guidance from Allah is straightforward. Allah, who blessed us with children, provides countless ways…
Traits of an Abusive Mindset 1. Controlling Behavior A need to control others, often through manipulation and aggression. 2. Entitlement Feeling superior or victimized, deserving special treatment while treating others with minimal regard. 3. Self-Centered Attitude Acting in self-interest without considering the needs of others, even if it causes harm. 4. Rigid Gender Role Stereotyping…
Disputes and arguments often arise between individuals for various reasons. They may occur when someone unintentionally mistreats another or projects anger and stress onto an unsuspecting person. Envy and coveting blessings not possessed can also lead to conflicts. Personal traits such as arrogance and insecurity may cause individuals to mistreat others to boost their self-esteem.…
“This is a thing which Allah has ordained for the daughters of Adam.” (Sahih al-Bukhari, Book 29, Hadith 81). Growing up in India, I experienced period shame from my first menstruation. Our society’s taboo against openly discussing menstruation made us feel impure and ashamed. For instance, during Ramadan, we would hide while eating to avoid…
